The ‘ Seed of Change’ lies within each one of us. I was not oblivious to this reality, yet I was quite unsure of what I was looking for. I became immune to a good few interviews as I was in a way ticking the boxes for self-approval. My gut instincts cut a chord with me, Confidence took a back seat…Despondency slowly started befriending me…
It was the year 2020 when the pandemic was at its peak and when emotions were running high and the innate desire to do something different and passionate kept popping up almost frequently. Seeking refuge in one of my friends, a career guidance counselor, and chatting for an hour I could see no light at the end of the tunnel simply because of my own lack of direction and purpose…As the saying goes ‘Sometimes it is the last key in the bunch that opens the lock’ Towards the end of the conversation the word ‘coaching’ emerged that caught my attention. My eyes suddenly glistened with curiosity..
There began my thirst to dive deep into the coaching world.
The Journey of a thousand miles begins with one step ..Lao Tzu…
I took that one step with the utmost courage and determination. There is always a level of uncertainty but that is crucial to push us to the edge, to explore, to grow, to thrive and flourish and mold us into better beings. It was time to ‘Break the Mold’.
Today, turning back, I realized investing in ‘Self -development’ was one of the best decisions ever. ‘Coaching’ completely changed the lens through which I perceive myself and the world. I became my own best coach per se and that is only and only possible through ‘ Self Reflection’.
The Game changer here is the ‘Self ‘ piece. Self-Mastery, Self Awareness, Self Discipline… It is the ‘Inward’ look. Change Inside out. What is ‘Inside’ manifests externally into actions and behaviors that will create a ripple effect. So the ‘Self ‘ must slowly awaken to create an effect that is in harmony with our true nature, ideals, and virtues. It must face the discomfort, the pinch points, and the despair, yet emerge unscathed to create a whole new pathway towards a healthy, sustainable, and meaningful living. I figured that the despondency that I was experiencing was a result of not understanding my true core values, and beliefs and simply messing around with my boundaries. It is pivotal to gauge that if left unaddressed the suffering proliferates at a much deeper level.
Well, for a very long time, I was pouring from an empty cup.No doubt I was pouring unhappiness, and frustration whilst being challenged by a gamut of heavy emotions that can be overbearing for the tiny fist-sized heart!
The Stepping Stone…
Stepping into Coaching broadened my horizon on crucial elements of simply being ‘Human’.It allowed me a space to be vulnerable, open, engaging,
Confidence slowly came in a package. As I started unwrapping the package, my level of openness grew beyond words. Agility accompanied me in every uncomfortable and awkward moment. What felt scary and judgemental in an ‘I don’t Know’ space became the most cherished one. External views and opinions seemed to have little or no significance to me. It was like slowly shedding old virtues of insanity, self-limiting beliefs, and fear. The inner child slowly started waking up from the long slumber .’Boundaries’ became my new psychic barrier. ‘I deleted the word ‘Busy’ from my own personal dictionary, leaving it solely for Oxford! The deletion came from the realization that the word ‘Busy’ was no less than an escape from myself, from my insecurities. Nonetheless, it is the most ‘buzzing’ word in today’s times.
In the spotlight of Coaching, I started enhancing the ‘Self Awareness Piece. It started highlighting the brighter areas of growth and positivity. The blemishes and scars of negativity and self-doubt slowly started fading away. It felt refreshing and rejuvenating to leave my old timid self behind. I didn’t succumb to the outstretched hands of the desperate and miserable ‘Old me’.I waved the final goodbyes to my past version and started watering the solid wings of confidence and landed on the beautiful island of hope and optimism. I was transforming every day. It was ‘Change’.
The connection with my inner self became deep and intense. ’Time’ came with a heavy price as I could not afford to waste it on futile ideologies and menial tasks that do not add value whatsoever.
Here, I mastered the value of ‘Choices’..the only freedom we humans have is the ability to choose. Between right and wrong, good and bad. These choices will reflect in our interactions and actions with other individuals, communities, society, and the wider world eventually.
Coaching is the stepping stone to ‘Change’.It is the space that allows full entry into the ‘Challenging territory’ with courage for self-discovery, unveiling the truth and feeding our ‘Inner Landscape’.Authenticity comes very naturally. Coaching really shaped my ‘Inner World’ and opened doors to new opportunities, talents, and creativity.
To experience all that ‘ shift’ takes courage and sheer determination.
How ready are you to wear the cape of ‘Change’? What stops you from joining the forces?
Once you seek answers to these pivotal questions the universe will join in the dance and you will start flowing into the rhythm and the magical drum beats..
The beats of Coaching!!
